a lesson for guys

Ok, this is not draft by me but hey, some of it theory is "not wrong" but it just bugs me.
So I think I should just add in abit of my bish cents into.
Dun shoot me if I'm wrong. Just bed me....................


Lessons i've learnt.

1. Never lose your cool to a girl, it has never helped anyting. When u discover or hear or see something you dont like, take a step back, even in times when anger prevents logical thinking, remind yourself, not to express your anger. Girls never like to see an angry man, esp when its about her.

But take in stride that if she is to lose her cool with you, that means she is considering your MORE than just a NORMAL friend. NORMAL is a big word, with meaning deeper than your ancestry roots, in a woman's logic.

2. When u see / hear / know something you dont like, dont confront her, confronting her about something which she didnt want to tell you, or something which she does which you dont agree about, brings absolutely no benefit to either party. All you would have achieved is getting your point across that u know, or what you think is right, but it will not change how she thinks, it will not make her think any better of you.

This is most difficult to do. However take it from a beneficial perspective: That you've learnt something new about this person, be it good or bad, and take time to think from a strategic perspective on how you can handle/accept these pecularities abt the person, rather than trying to change the person.

Like the saying goes- speak softly and carry a big stick. Knowing is the greatest benefit of all, others dont need to know, that you know.

Yeah boy, so when there's an argument going on, RUN n HIDE. That is how it should work! Isn't it great? If you debate over it, she will just insist you are just a chauvinist pig. If you dun, you have no mind of your own. You are just not challenging enough. So remember, woman != logic.

In programming terms :
If (woman != logic)
relationship is real
else
relationship is probably AI/fake/unreal/dream/act or you are in hell


so are u a guy or a girl or homo or bi or confused?hahaha this is quite entertaining...a read for fun meant for the open minded or bored working executives only.Don't u guys start frying your own brain ya!!A cheerful heart is a choice there always...HUMP day coming!!Cheers...

I think that probably every guy have more or less been through the below experience before :

1) Meet girl.
2) Get along well with girl.
3) Feel attracted to girl and think she is attracted to you.
4) Tell girl that you like her (after lotsa alcohol sometimes).
5) Girl disappears.
6) Call girl 999 times, but still no response.
7) Finally girl turns up and says "I only like you as a friend and sorry if I hurt you".

See see, Christmas eve is also know as 平安夜 (safe night) and it really is NEVER safe. Look at how much liqour the world is consuming on these festive seasons. So point 4 very often happens after consuming enough alcohol to make do you things you won't do when you are sober.

Ouch! I know it's painful, trust me I just been through it but you might take comfort knowing that this has happened to me and just about every guy I know MANY times.

Let me try to explain what's going on here, and hopefully help you guys and the others reading this to avoid this kind of thing as much as possible in the future. If it helps that is.

From my perspective, there are a few main issues going on here all at once...

1) Women are complex and often illogical or rather in my own words contradictary (so are men, but in different ways)

Women act on emotion and intuition more than men. They don't do the "logical" thing as often as men. Women walk into Starbucks and order a "fat free" cafe mocha, and then get WHIPPED CREAM on top. No kidding. I see it all the time...Women will go through a full closet of clothing trying to choose something to wear to the supermarket, then conclude that "there's nothing to wear in here"

Again, men have their bizarre behaviors, and I'm not trying to badmouth women... but from my experience women are usually not very LOGICAL about things... and they're ESPECIALLY illogical when it comes to relationships. Men are perfectly logical (Or rather too logical). They want to have sex with everything and everyone. Women aren't. They only want to have sex with
men who DON'T want to have sex with them. My point is that you have to put your ideas about how things "should" be OUT OF YOUR MIND. Start a new way of thinking about things based on reality and not logic.

So in simple word, next time you want to bed a girl? Tell her you are not interested in her in bed but only as a idealistic icon in your mind. That should boost things up. Logic don't work with woman most of the time. Money does.


2) Women are attracted to men for reasons that most men either don'tknow, don't understand, or won't accept.

As I like to say, "Attraction Isn't A Choice".

We don't think about who we'd like to feel attraction for, it just happens on it's own in most cases. But the thing to remember is that attraction has a pattern. It's like a combination lock or a puzzle. There is a way to create it if you know the "recipe". On the other hand, if you DON'T know the recipe, then you're not likely to figure it out by trial and error. And the reason for this again is because IT'S NOT LOGICAL.

While men are attracted mostly to looks, women are attracted mostly to character. In the above situation, we displayed the personality trait that I refer to as wussy a little too early in the game. Women generally aren't attracted to men who get too lovey-dovey and emotional too quickly. There's not mystery or challenge when you fall in love immediately. And when you call like 31 times a day, it only makes the problem worse. What you need to do in these situations is to sit back more and give her some space. Give her room to think about you and miss you. I know it works...trust me.

That is good as saying "look is NOT important". Mind you, they say it coz they don't want to hurt you. I seen and heard it a 100 times and it dun works a 100 times. Don't believe girls who say them. It mostly shit. Trying hooking them up with a very charming character-ed fugly looking fart and see how they react. So be practical. Just say "as least I dowan to scare myself off the bed". That is simple and practical enough.

3) The way that women communicate isn't always as "direct and straightforward"; as most of us guys would like.

If a woman wants to tell you that she isn't interested in you in a romantic way, she'll often NOT tell you as her way of telling you. In other words, she might just disappear for awhile. Or she might not return calls quickly. Or she might talk about other guys with you...basically, again you
have to put the concept of pure, rational logic out of your mind when it comes to the world of attraction.

Women are subtle. They read into things and try to tell you things indirectly. Women don't generally take what you say at face value. They want to know what everything REALLY means.

If you meet a girl, and after the first date you say "I really like you, you're beautiful and I have feelings for you" they think you said "I'm a Wuss because I fall in love too quickly". On the other hand, if you say "Good night, give me a call sometime" she'll think you said "You were kind
of boring, and if you want to talk to me again you're going to have to call me".

There is no exact thing to say, but just think like a woman before you say it out. At least you try to get most of the grounds covered. It helps A LOT.

So don't ask her word. Let her buy you dinner. A woman who dowan to buy you dinner is going to be expensive on the long road. Chasing the skirt is like fishing. A fish on the hook dun mean you can immediately pull the line back hard. It might snap. Know when to throw in the line and then pull it in again. Same theory. Of coz if she wilingly swim to you, then its a totally different theoy.

4) It's difficult to un-do one of these situations once it has reached this point.

Unfortunately, once a woman has "made up her mind" about a guy, it's usually VERY difficult to change that mind.

If you're in a situation like this where a woman has said "I only like you as a friend", then you're best off going out and meeting some other women, and getting on with your life immdediately! I did. Don't wait. Get on with it.

If you disappear from her life, then turn up a month or two later... and you're dating a few other attractive women... she might see you in a new light.

Jealousy is a very powerful motivator to women, and this is often what it takes to get a woman to see you in a new light once you've let out your wussy self too early in the game.

Don't try to un-do it. Just get on with your life and quit obsessing over her. Even if you can help yourself, dun let her know!


I can't agree more on this. Let it go. The world has many trees. Go find some other trees. But of coz this is easier said than done. Me ain't even using much of those shit myself but me knows it the right path. But who is to decide the left path? Who?

Latest statistics for Singaporeans. The population seems to inclining towards the female anomaly, so guys, take your pick.